There has been a great deal of attention on domestic violence lately, including the tragedy of unborn babies who are killed during attacks on their mothers, and the often overlooked area of male victims. What are the indicators that tension is increasing in a relationship that may be heading for trouble? Psychologists have identified and agreed that the following are signs to watch for, and to seek help before more serious violence occurs:

One partner exerts disproportionate control in the couple relationship or over all family members: very often one partner feels like ?the boss? rather than someone in a cooperative relationship who is expected to give and take, and to share decision making. Authoritarian personalities may be attracted to this role, and inflict increasing pressure on their loved ones to do exactly as they say, or face punishment. Any signs of independence or autonomy from the non-controlling partner can trigger violent reactions. This type of partner can also be very jealous and try to limit all potential social exposures, to a debilitating degree. If this is happening to you or to anyone you know help needs to be sought.

One partner verbally denigrates or belittles the others: Emotional and verbal abuse are common precursors to scenes that erupt into physical violence.

One partner is disrespectful of the personhood and dignity of the other: victims of domestic abuse often have their opinions, decisions, attitudes or judgements ridiculed by the other who demands that things are always done their way. Disrespect is a serious warning sign that must be heeded.

The abused partner feels captive to the domineering one: many victims of domestic abuse explain how isolated they are forced to be from friends or family members, how depressed they are, and how fearful of their partner. If you or anyone you know is in this position please encourage them to seek help. For more information and where to turn for help, please go to
http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/domestic-violence